The page did not only explain me to other people. It also cleared things up for me. Having to answer all these questions about myself as I make them did make me clearer to myself.
I think it made me switch to he/it pronouns instead of just saying he/him, though I will still say that second version for brevity or in spaces that are less ubiquitously queer.
Pronouns and words are separated between In-person, Online, or In-person/Online. In-person only infers that the term is not really for online (and vice-versa). Terms that are Okay are for terms you shouldn't go out of your way to refer to me with, but it's fine if you do by habit.
Avoid and Never are for words or conversation topics to either avoid (or approach with caution) or never talk about, respectively.
Pronouns and words are separated between In-person, Online, or In-person/Online. In-person only infers that the term is not really for online (and vice-versa). Terms that are Okay are for terms you shouldn't go out of your way to refer to me with, but it's fine if you do by habit.
Avoid and Never are for words or conversation topics to either avoid (or approach with caution) or never talk about, respectively.
Pronouns and words are separated between In-person, Online, or In-person/Online. In-person only infers that the term is not really for online (and vice-versa). Terms that are Okay are for terms you shouldn't go out of your way to refer to me with, but it's fine if you do by habit.
Avoid and Never are for words or conversation topics to either avoid (or approach with caution) or never talk about, respectively.
I realized that I was touting my virtual girl personality above my agender identity, despite my agender identity being in-person as well as online. Agender, in the way I use it, means that gender categories do not meaningfully describe me. I think it’s easy for me to accidentally do that because my agender identity is very non-confrontational, like it specifically is about the rejection of gender categories for myself. Because it’s a rejection of categories, I often leave it off my labels in the first place. Even just between writing this and having made my pronoun page, I had to go back in and add the agender flag. Not because I forgot, but because it’s so much about not defining myself that it often is the thing not feeling like I need to define.
